Self-esteem
What is Self-Esteem?
Self-esteem is the assessment we place on ourselves. It is determined by self-concept, which is simply the definition of our self in the different areas of our lives.
It's what I think and feel about myself. Each person's satisfaction with themselves.
Having good self-esteem is important, as it triggers some psychological disorders such as depression and anxiety. If we have a negative self-image, we carry problems that disrupt our lives and activities.
Self-esteem has 4 characteristics:
- It is not innate
- It develops throughout our lives
- It is susceptible to being modified
- It is influenced by the context in which we live.
Self-esteem has 3 components:
- Cognitive (What I think)
- Affective (What I feel)
- Behavioral (What I do).
Who are the enemies of self-esteem?
Beliefs and values. Throughout our lives, we have been taught and learned a set of harmful, irrational beliefs and values that are impossible to put into practice. If we create excessive expectations, if we constantly compare ourselves with others, if we approach life in rigid, absolute terms where there are no exceptions or nuances, we will always feel frustrated and insignificant.
The "shoulds" that have hurt me so much...
- He should be the perfect lover, friend, parent, spouse...
- You should be able to find a quick solution to any problem.
- I shouldn't be able to feel hurt. I should always be happy and serene.
- Should be fully competent.
- I should know, understand and foresee everything.
- You should always be busy, resting is a waste of time.
- You should never feel emotions like jealousy, anger, anguish...
- I should never make mistakes.
- I should protect my children from all sorrow.
What do I get with good self-esteem?
I'm better prepared to face adversity, I'll have better job opportunities, I'll find enriching relationships, I'll treat and be treated with more respect, and I'll be happier just with living.
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